August 28, 2016 by Soo Ee
If people in management don’t like your ideas, they often throw many questions in your direction to distract and demoralize you. These questions make you wonder what’s with the non- camaraderie and whether the idea you came up with was worth the meanness and vindication they threw at you.
Don’t take it too personally. It’s not you, it’s them.
1. They fear being seen as incompetent. Nobody wants to be seen as incompetent. The idea being presented could present much potential so it is natural for someone to oppose it till they fully understand.
–> Explain and answer their questions.
2. They fear not having enough information. They fear being seen as having limited understanding without information. They don’t want to fall prey to the biases that affect decision making.
–> Provide all and every information you think they would need.
3. They feel threatened. The idea presented threatens their values or belief system, thus the first reaction received is push back. Power is a huge motivator for some, so if the idea would deprive off them of his or her ability to influence, they see new ideas as threat to their power.
–> Find another way to frame the idea.
4. They worry about their network. Nobody likes being the bad guy (or girl) so if there’s potential for him or her to be ill-received.
–> Reframe the idea in a way it benefits then just as you would if you were to sell a service.
5. They just don’t like it. Some people just don’t see the light.
–> Heck them.
At the end of the day, the important thing to remember is that you can’t please everyone. If you know what you’re doing is right and in accordance with your own values or the mission and vision of the place you work at/people you work with, you’re on the right track, even if the track seems plagued with obstacles and numb nuts.
Nothing worth working for comes easy. May you always be thick skin, clear minded and brave!